Monday, December 01, 2008

Update

So I finally spoke to Eran's mother after the week of them being out of pocket and then us being on the road. Almost as good a source as the horse's mouth - I guess.

Turns out, all is not as bleak as originally thought.
As we know, the baby was born early but she breathed on her own and died shortly thereafter. She was born very early (as we know) and she was also apparently very under-developed for that stage of the pregnancy. Something about the placenta pulling away I think.

The fact that the baby breathed on her own was something I did not know before. And whether or not Helen had to make the decision to end her (the baby's) life is irrelevant, because the baby and G-d made the ultimate decision for her. Helen did have the chance to see her and said that she was beautiful - and I'm happy to know that is one of the good memories she will have to take with her from all of this.

It seems she did have some other fluctuations of BP so they kept her another day or two at the hospital. And as far as being able to have more children, they do not rule it out completely, but it would have to be under strict medical supervision from the get-go. This is Israeli medicine after all and they are VERY supportive of bringing Jewish babies into the world. I am glad to know that they didn't do anything as drastic as medically incapacitating her reproductively and keeping her from the possibility of ever having any other children.

But in any case, I am still thinking of her daily and I hope she can weather this storm as well. I'm sure she is sick of hearing that at least she has a son...and to be strong. She still had to go through the scary pregnancy and all the trauma that ensued and she didn't get to bring home a baby in the end. I say she should be able to cry and scream and be by herself and mourn for how ever long it takes, but that's not how it is in reality...The show must go on.